Orange County Personal Injury Lawyer
Dealing with the death of a loved one is a life experience that no one wants to face, but most of us have to experience.
The death of person close to us is often accompanied by questions. When first exposed to the possibility of a death we often ask why it is happening. When we are facing imminent death we ask why me or why is it happening now. We wonder if there really is life after death.
Death regardless of how it comes whether as a result of illness, war, greed, or an accident is inevitable. Death is one of the very few things that are 100% guaranteed. Spirituality often helps, because the soul or spirit lives on and there is often an afterlife. Most of us feel our spirit is the same, our bodies age, but inside we still feel the same.
It is easy to speak of death and make dry statements about death and how it is inevitable, but for someone experiencing extreme pain and agony from a terminal illness or severe injuries that is slowly approaching death, it is an entirely different experience. For those of us who have experienced near death experiences, it is likewise a very different experience. To some us it may have been a pleasant experience where after a struggle found peace. For others with a prolonged battle with illness, intoxication, or other condition that made death imminent it may have been a terrifying experience.
It would be easy if words alone could alleviate the fear and the pain of facing death, but unfortunately it is not that simply or that easy. Sometimes near death experiences are so horrific that individuals chose death itself. Individuals that suffer heart attacks and are revived more than once often ask they not be revived, because death itself is not the horrific experience. The experience of imminent death is often what causes the most physical, emotional, and spiritual pain.
There is a recurring theme about individuals seeing a white light in near death experience and it is debatable what individuals actually experience in death. What would be more certain is that individuals can and do experience awful emotional and spiritual pain as well as extreme fear in near death experiences, so much so that the individual does not want to be alone. A near death experience would necessarily mean some degree of feeling, thinking, and ability to recall the experience which may be so traumatic that similar life experiences may trigger the memory and create the fear and an anxiety experienced before.
It is easy to demean, devalue, and brush off the near death experience of another, because unless we ourselves know what the experience is like, we cannot have the empathy necessary to feel the experience. We may be encouraged by own experiences to disregard what another has experienced and in attempt to comfort another use generic expressions and cliches in an attempt to brush off another’s feelings, but what would be most beneficial would be to simply listen to the person that has experienced such a traumatic event.